Addressing concerns arising from the tragedy in Seoul this weekend

Dear Faculty and Staff,

You may have noticed that the Senior Leadership Team is not dressed up for Halloween today. We made that decision late last night in response to concerns expressed by our Korean community in relation to the tragedy in Seoul this weekend.

However, we did not change the plan for teachers and students because, in times like these, it is important that we continue to provide our students with routine and stability. Part of that is following our normal program, including our previously planned Halloween activities. Thank you to the faculty and staff who are ensuring our students have the opportunity to enjoy this community event, one that we have been unable to provide for several years. I am sure that the students will appreciate your efforts.

When a tragedy occurs, a variety of feelings are normal for both children and adults. There is no one right way to respond to news of a loss or tragedy. Feelings and behaviors not only vary from person to person, but they change throughout the grieving process.

At our school, students have a safe and supportive environment that provides structure, routine, and a sense of normality. And most students may not need strategies to deal with this news or, as in the case of our younger students, may not be aware of this tragic event. However, we want to ensure that you know what to do should the need arise.

Below, Jacob Humes, our EC-12 Psychologist, has provided some guidelines for approaching the day and any possible concerns.

1. If a student approaches you for support, they should be given an opportunity to express their grief and fears as honestly and simply as possible. Counselors across the school are available to follow up with any students or adults as needed.

2. Maintain a normal routine, and engage students in regular activities (including assemblies, gatherings, and previously planned events). But please remain open to a range of feelings or reactions that children might demonstrate.

3. For concerns raised in class or other group settings, it may be helpful to focus students’ attention on questions such as, “How will this affect our lesson today?” and “What do we need to have a successful class today?” Accept any comments without judgment and note any specific students who may require further conversations so that they may follow up with a counselor before the end of the day.

Also, please note that if you, yourself, need additional support, our school counselors can speak with you or can provide a list of external mental health providers.

SSIS is a caring, supportive community. We look out for one another. We look out for our students and our families. And we look out for you. So, please do not hesitate to let us know if you have any questions or concerns or need a listening ear.

All good wishes,

Catriona